Leaky gut is a problem with the integrity of the gut boundary, so how does this translate into boundary problems in your life?
One of the main philosophies of homeopathy is “like treats like”. When prescribing a homeopathic remedy for someone, I aim to find the substance that resonates the most with the symptoms, emotional, physical, mental and spiritual, the person tells me about. I’ve often seen people who suffer from leaky gut syndrome also have difficulty with establishing clear boundaries in their person or work life.
Boundaries are defined as “borders, restrictions, limits or edges.” How do we develop this concept within ourselves? Initially, I think they are established as children, with positive, self-reflective parenting, and they are incorporated into a positive aspect of yourself. There is also a cultural aspect to boundaries; some cultures believe you need to do everything all the time to take care of your family members; while other cultures don’t have this attitude.
Positive self-esteem is developed in a similar manner. Feeling good about yourself makes it easier to know how to take care of yourself and incorporate self-care rituals as part of your daily life.
Here are a few tools to help you begin a new approach towards boundaries:
Know who you are, what works best for you and what you want in any given situation. While this sounds simple enough, it can be challenging to do this on a consistent basis.
It’s a natural response to be concerned that if you say “no” you’ll hurt someone’s feelings, so it’s important to be considerate of this when first starting to change your behavior.
Realize that your inner shift to begin establishing clearer boundaries is just that, inside of you, so the people it impacts, the people you deal with on a daily basis, are unaware of your inner shift. Patience and explaining your new approach will go a long way towards having a smoother transition.
It takes time and practice to create new habits and you will not always feel comfortable when you first start this new approach, and the people in your life will need some time to adjust, too. Stick with it! The lightness you will feel inside of you will make this well worth your efforts!